"you talk too much ..."

A study has found that teenage girls who endlessly rehash their problems and dwell on negative feelings are more likely to develop anxiety and depression than boys are.

Now I seem to recall something similar to this from our own police force, something to the effect that a 'shot of whisky' was often more palliative' than 'counselling' after traumatic events. Mind you, after having seen a particularly nasty car accident and non involved personnel coming for a look and taking photos ... I dunno.

And also something similar in regard to the dangers of counselling post close friend or family member suicide

Not that I am suggesting alcohol to remit kids' problems, but ... talking about problems keeps them fresh in your mind. If there are not times when there is a break from these, if you are not very socially adept, have few friends, or the friends you do have are 'problem talkers,' then there has got to be a high probability that you will become more preoccupied, more functioning in accord with your problems, more insular and so it goes on ... all the way to the local house of psychiatry.

Auckland psychologist Sara Chatwin said she agreed with the findings. "Talking to the same peer group means the people who hear and advise on the problems are not qualified," she said. "They have the same fears and jealousies.
"To reduce anxiety, they need to speak to a professional with no agenda, bias or preconceptions."

But I am not so sure ... I would have thought that talking with any group of people ... like talk psychiatrists, talk psychologists, psychotherapists, counsellors - even or particularly sexual abuse counsellors - would under the same conditions have the same effect i.e. result in a more debilitated person. To exempt a group from the findings seems a little precious.